Active Listening Student Production
Oct 2, 2013
Active Listening to Student Production
Hi, I'm AJ. Welcome to another video on improving your communication skills. Today, my friends and I are going to show you how to be an active listener. First, let's talk about 5 blocks to active listening. These are things that can keep you from being an active listener. What's the first block to active listening? Daydreaming. Daydreaming can really get you into trouble. For example, we have a class listening to their teacher. The teacher is just announced that he decided to cancel the ten page assignment that was going to be due the next day. The students are delighted. But what about finster? I can't wait to get home and eat the leftover bacon. Poor fenster, he spent all night working on the paper. All because he was daydreaming in class.
Here's block number two rehearsing. Rehearsing is when you are so busy thinking about what you are going to say next, you never completely hear what the other person is telling you. Her story is so boring, wait till she hears what I did this weekend. Okay, here's block number three filtering is when you listen to certain parts of the conversation, but not all. Here we have a mother telling her son that he can go to the movies that night if he mows the lawn before dinner. Larry, you can go to the moves and night if you know the grass before dinner. What does the sun here? I can go to the movies. Yeah, you have to go to the movies. The sun only hears part of the conversation. So guess who didn't go to the movies that night? Now block number four judging can get you into all kinds of trouble. It's ugly, and almost always backfires.
Judging is when you've stopped listening to the other person because you've already judged place labels, made assumptions about or stereotype the other person. Notice in this scene, Erica asked John if he would like to come to her party. Does John hear what Erica is saying? Hey, do you want to come to my house for the party tonight? What a loser. Yeah, judging is ugly. Beware when you judge others, it will come back to hurt you. Finally, block number 5 distractions occur when your attention is divided by something internal to you like headaches worry or hungry. Or something external to you like traffic, whispering or other stalking. Here, Matilda misses important instructions about tomorrow's test. Why? She's distracted by the music on her iPod. So there you have it. 5 blocks to effective listening. Now we'll consider 5 tips for better listening.
The first tip for active listening is to look. Maintain natural eye contact, lean forward, occasionally not. Listen with your whole body. Look. The second tip for active listening is to paraphrase. Take time to summarize in your own mind with the speaker as saying. Put it in your own words. If it's a conversation, say, so what I'm hearing is, or maybe what I'm hearing you say is, just remember the importance of the word so. So what you're saying is you want my parents to be arriving in it. Yeah. Third tip for active listening is to reflect. Butter reflects back what the other person is feeling. So what you say is rocky's upset with you? Fourth tip for active listening is to connect. Make connections. Link what you're hearing, to what you already know or have experienced.
Yeah, I know what you mean. Same thing happened to me. The 5th tip for active listening is to ask. Ask questions, follow up, explore. So what else did you do this weekend? So there you have it. 5 tips for active listening. Remember what one man said about listening. Most of the successful people I've known are the ones who do more listening. Than talking. Well, this is AJ. I hope you've enjoyed this edition for mister weaver's class. On active listening.